Witchy Wallpapers For Your iPhone

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Pentagram and roses, via Pinterest // Magic rose, by Natacha Birds // I'll put a spell on you, via Pinterest // Witch, please, via Pinterest  // Moon and sky, via Pinterest // We are the weirdos, mister via Pinterest // Magic powers, by Natacha Birds // Hand and moon, by The Moon Bacon // Spell jar, via Pinterest

I have a fairly old iPhone 5S that has served me well for about three years now. I like buying phones outright, and never get contracts. I don't really feel an urge to have the latest model of anything, and much prefer just waiting until I can afford to pay cash on the barrel for whatever I'm after. Until the day my 5S finally kicks the bucket though, I'll be dressing it up with cute wallpapers to make it feel all pretty and new. Here's a selection of my favourite witchy and autumnal ones, to tide you over if you're waiting to get a new device, or the one you have needs some magic. 

If you want to make your phone extra witchy, another cool thing you can do is take a picture of your Tarot card or spread, and set that as your wallpaper to remind you throughout the day. Sometimes I set a screenshot of my horoscope as my background too. Right now I'm using the beautiful bottom middle illustration by The Moon Bacon. So simple and otherworldly.

Planning My Wardrobe For Autumn

Autumn brings out the minimalist witch in me. I always have a huge clear-out around this time each year, and I feel the need to go back to basics. During September, October, and November, I want to buy black t-shirts, statement jewellery, oversized coats, plaid skirts. My personal style is very similar to the look and feel of my blog; mostly black and white, with accents of bold colour and metallics, and an otherworldly vibe. I like great shapes and tailoring. I try to buy at least 80% of my clothes second-hand, and the rest must be high-quality enough that I know I'll get many years of wear out of them. I'm always up for going thrifting, but never more so than in the autumn, when rummaging through old bracelets and band t-shirts feels like a picturesque experience from You've Got Mail.

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In Cardiff, Sobey's is my number one vintage spot; the rose-gold triangle ring you can see below is from there! It's a little big for me so I wear it on my thumb most of the time. They sell gorgeous button-down shirts and old Converse in every colour of the rainbow. For new clothes, one of my first stops is always Urban Outfitters. I love their homeware, lingerie, and books as well as the pretty dresses and jumpers. For the colder months, I might invest in a new coat through Lyst.co.uk (In an ideal world, I'd get this one by Whistles) and keep an eye on their site from the comfort of my bed on those days when I know exactly what I want but I'm not sure if it actually exists. In reality, my budget will probably stretch to one of these Twin Peaks-style babies from Missguided (all the Madchen Amick vibes). For minimal and delicate spooky details, have a look at Eclectic Eccentricity; they sent me the crescent moon and cluster necklaces pictured above. All their stuff is gorgeously magical and exquisite, and I'm newly obsessed.

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Part of the reasoning behind having a clear out and rebooting your wardrobe is that you rediscover things you already own. If I get rid of enough tat, eventually I find a few gems underneath the rubble. One item I had almost completely forgotten about is this simple black bag from SkinnyDip. I picked it up in the sale during some sleepless-night internet shopping. I've also remembered a passion for acrylic nails, especially in black. The ones above are from Elegant Touch but I hear there's a place in Cardiff market that will do you a set of gels for £9, so I may have to go and give them a try.

Witchcraft For Self-Care

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In recent seasons I have moved away from body "goals", and beauty "routines". I've started to embrace sensual rituals that make me feel good and more at home in my body; more magical practices that leave room to create, and become more in tune with my true self. Human bodies, especially women's, are constantly flowing and evolving, shedding, growing, and changing. Patterns and repetition are crucial for keeping yourself healthy (getting enough sleep, remembering to brush your teeth, taking your medicine or supplements etc) but a routine can't tell you what your heart craves on a deeper level. Eventually you'll have to go digging. Instead of scolding myself into following a regimen of self-care, I'm trying to listen to myself. As I become accustomed to interpreting the signs, and responding with love, magic is mostly how I nurture this kind of intuitive self-care.

Attempting to keep my heart open is one of the most difficult things I do to care for myself. I often instinctively close, shut down, get on with things, go numb, whatever you want to call it, and then when a situation arises where I need to be loving and show my vulnerability again, it can catch me off guard if I haven't been making a conscious effort to work through any unhealed wounds. Warmth is a simple physical way to begin shifting this. All too often we stiffen our bodies from the cold, creating nervous tension, and then stiffen even more from the nervousness, a vicious cycle that is most easily interrupted on a physical level. I like to lay in a hot bath filled with Heart Chakra Love Bath and hang one leg over the side, breathing deeply or singing (LUSH's soundtrack for The Comforter treatment is one of my favourite magical CDs). Making a colourful masterpiece through water and flowers has often helped me, albeit clumsily, through. Feeling the elements in my hands and enveloping my skin as I sink into a potion of my own design brings me back into my body slowly, and with kindness. In times when I feel I cannot create, I can usually at least create a bath, which then shifts my physiological state into something better. If a bath isn't an option I wrap myself in a dressing gown and warm my feet and hands. Dragon Herbs tea helps calm my nerves and ground me into my body, but any loose-leaf tea can be a soothing process. Find one you like or get witchy and mix your own. Making tea with a loved one often opens up the space to talk about whatever we're going through.

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I am terrible at meditating, but creating a small empowerment spell from natural ingredients or a spell candle (I used this Aquarius candle from House of Intuition) helps me focus and recharge. I like to write down some notes on what I would like to manifest, then read them and see what words or phrases pop out, and use those to build a spell. Try keeping a diary for this purpose, so that you have a place to pour out your heart and make powerful, authentic magic. If your spell produces a talisman or charm, so much the better. A talisman can be anything from a small rock you used in your magic to a whole bag of ingredients, or a piece of jewellery. I carry a piece of dalmation jasper during anxious times, then hold it in my hands and focus on its smoothness and its shape when I need to. I take rose quartz with me whenever I want to have an open heart; it reminds me of my intention and helps me balance my emotions a bit faster. House of Intuition spell candles all contain stones or shells that will be supercharged once revealed.

In my sleeping space, I use an aromatherapy lamp like these ones that changes hue and pumps out mist made from whatever essential oil you put in it. Being able to choose the colour it emits also helps control my mood, as I'm sensitive in that way. At night I tend to stick to lavender oil, and I also burn lavender incense for its calming properties. During the day I find the scent of pine helps brings the outdoors in, and make my room feel less stuffy. If I'm clearing my space, lately I've been using some distilled Violet Water to wash down any surfaces, and even my floor. Violet helps to cleanse and release negative energy, so I use it to clean my altar and crystals too, and I add it to baths if I need to literally and figuratively wash the day away.

Finally, all witchcraft is in essence, an act of radical self-care. Witchcraft centres its practitioner, whilst also looking out onto the world with love and responsibility. It frames each and every one of us as our own goddess, or god, with the emphasis on personal power, free will, and positive manifestation. As it brings you closer to yourself and your own nature, knowing what you need to feel whole gets a bit easier.

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Showgirl Wishlist

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I've said it before and I'll say it again, stripper heels are the most comfortable heels you'll ever wear. The skintight plastic means they never rub or give you blisters, and the plush cushioned soles make it possible to dance and run around in them all night. The pair I usually wear are only 4" with no platform, from the Pleaser bikini-fitness range (a great option for tall girls, or dealing with low ceilings). However, now that I have some auditions coming up and will be performing in different venues, doing different shows, I want to get a more theatrical pair just for stage performances. I have my heart set on these rose-bud beauties. I want to frolic like a woodland Barbie.  

I also want to get myself feeling fierce for September and book in for rose quartz or amethyst acrylic nails. Crystal and marble effect nails are my new favourite thing, check them out on Pinterest if you don't know what I'm talking about. I was going to get eyelash extensions too but seeing as I sleep on my front, I think I'll stick to falsies. A new Pacifica perfume would be great too, and some Urban Decay Setting Spray. In an ideal world I'd be filling my closet with fantastical outfits from Love Child Boudoir, like the gorgeous flowery harness top above. I'm also going to re-read my copy of Striptastic by Jacq The Stripper, which the utter babe sent me a while back! I insist you check it out, it's red-hot, scorching genius from a fellow ripper babe. All of this stuff will be thrown into a new weekender. Hopefully a cute eggshell one from Victoria's Secret PINK.

Unblocking My Creativity

My creativity ebbs and flows. It dips and rises in sync with the seasons of my life. When I feel like I am being pushed forward relentlessly, my urge to make things simply disappears. I cannot find the energy to reflect when I am focused on living, on finding my way out, or through. I'm not talking about periods of depression; I'm talking about the outward-facing or exhausted dark times of the soul. Times when maybe some part of you is being forged, and you cannot stop to describe it. The days (weeks, months...) afterward can be even worse for my productivity. Numb and quiet days spent staring at my phone, or consuming art instead of making it. Although I should be used to them, times without creativity still scare me. That never goes away. It always feels as if they will never end. Is that it, I ask myself? Will my ability to bring new ideas into the world just run out some day? Has it run out already? Am I going to feel bored forever, unable to shift? You never get used to it. It is hard to have faith.

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Everyone is different, but here are some things that help me when I get stuck like this. Re-reading the chapter on creativity in Women Who Run With The Wolves. Designing a playlist of brand new music for inspiration. Remembering that this has happened before, and will happen again. Plenty of time spent alone, drinking coffee. Forcing myself to move, as difficult and unnatural as it feels, pick up my camera, my notebook, my laptop, whatever, and make something. Asking myself as gently as possible to remember and to recreate the parts that hurt. Come to terms with the fact that whatever you make will be shit. The finished result is not the point - the point is to unblock yourself. I am clearing out my creative drain. I don't need to have something for Instagram at the end of it. It doesn't have to feel good.

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Limiting my time on social media also really helps me. The other day I went out and bought a pin-board, and some cute rose gold pins from Paperchase. It just felt like something I wanted to do, and I'm glad I did. It's provided a physical space where I can work on visual ideas quickly with my hands, without picking up my phone and falling into a vortex. I haven't added a page to my kink scrapbook in a long time, even though I have more than enough raw material to draw from. I'm planning to make a series of works inspired by my last stint as a stripper, and for that, I know I will need all my skills warmed-up and ready to go. I also want to do a few pages on magic and witchcraft. The pin-board is practice space, an experimentation and reminder. I'm taking more pictures, writing more posts, and I have a clear vision of my autumn content. Bringing it all into the world has already begun, but for me creativity is a wave that I have to ride, as I wait patiently for it to reach its peak. I have a tendency to burn myself out faster than I need to, and speed up the repetition of the cycle. As I grow older, I want to learn to accept the waves however they crash, and learn to harness them better when they come. For they will come.

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How To Have A Good Skin Day

I first heard about Tropic skincare from my mum; she brought me home a Super Greens Serum from London to try out; it immediately worked well with my clogged-pore prone, combination skin. Using three drops before bed, when my face is still wet with toner, has given me noticeable results and much more confidence in my skin. It made my face feel plumper, brighter, and "fed" by the morning. That was a few months ago now, and through Super Greens, I've become a raving fan of the brand. Adding Good Skin Day Resurfacing Serum to my night-time ritual has only made things even better. It's another serum, designed to be used 3-4 times a week; I alternate these two products each night, so that my skin gets a balance of nutrients. After a night using Good Skin Day, my skin feels balanced, more youthful, almost a bit... airbrushed? It's hard to describe, but I'll go into more detail about how the product actually works to give you a better idea.

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Good Skin Day is a resurfacing product. It contains willow bark BHA, which exfoliates your skin, leaving it smoother and softer, and AHA fruit enzymes. It's also packed with glycolic and hyaloronic acids, both amazing for fighting red marks from past blemishes. On your fingers, it feels really light and thin, drying quickly on the face and leaving you with that ultra-clean, tingly feeling as it refines the top layer of your skin. I'm obsessed with the sweet, sugary papaya scent; it's not overwhelming at all and I honestly look forward to putting it on at night. 

In the last month of using it I've probably had one, maybe two spots, and those were hormonal ones arriving like clockwork just before my period. A vast improvement from before I started using this serum. My pores and skin texture are noticeably refined; my makeup goes on smoother, and I use a very light layer of foundation now, if any. I feel like my face is a lot calmer, more even, and just generally less troubled. Tropic products can be quite pricey (Good Skin Day retails at £42, which isn't too bad for something all-natural, vegan, cruelty-free, and effective) but they do last a very long time. Because you only use a few drops, serums last me literally months. I've hardly made a dent in mine even though I've been using them consistently.

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If you have similar skin to me, with a multitude of small, mild issues, then I really recommend this. It will be especially good for those in their twenties, who may be fighting blemishes, fine lines, clogged pores and redness all at the same time. If you don't quite know what is up with your skin or how it could be better, but you just know it could be, that's exactly where I was at too, and I feel like I've made huge improvements recently. Where are you guys at on your skincare journey?

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How I Practise Magic In My Daily Life

I was raised in a Pagan family. Every year we celebrated Samhain as well as Halloween, with candlelight and midnight dancing, tequila on the kitchen table for the adults, no bedtime for the kids. I learned the relationships between colours, planets, stones, elements, emotions. I learned how to feel at home in the forest, and I learned how to let go. I was taught that animals are friends, not food, and I still believe that now. I became a person who wants to make everything around her more beautiful. Someone who is kind, I hope. Magic was such a huge part of my upbringing, a way of living; so much less about ritual than simply a way of interacting with the world. As a result, people often misunderstand what I mean when I talk about magic. To me, magic is in the way certain people always know just what you need, or in the way they can bring any dying creature back to life. Science is magical, and magic is not unscientific. Magic is just pure creation. It is influence and control over ourselves, not over others. It is cherishing the earth; something most of us have forgotten how to do.

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I do many things to bring more magic into my life. I grow plants in my home. Having living things around me, growing and flourishing and being born over and over again helps me stay in tune with the seasons and with the needs of other life forms. It reminds me of the cyclical nature of life, and of my eventual insignificance, and simultaneous preciousness.

I draw a tarot card when I get up in the morning, or sometimes I pluck a book off my shelves, close my eyes and point to a sentence at random. Whether you believe in the Tarot or not, doing this will bring things from your subconscious into your conscious mind, allowing them to be processed and worked through. 

I make a ritual bath. By this I don't mean just throwing in a bath bomb or two, but of course you can do that! What I tend to do is think of what I want to achieve (do I want to feel sexual, calm, safe, to get a good night's sleep?) and then work synesthetically around that. I use colours, scents, flowers, products, and temperatures that work together to change my physiological and mental state. 

I try to stay in tune with the phases of the moon, with Pagan festivals, and on a wider scale, the seasons of the year. You can do this with an app, an almanac, or even a good daily diary. Eventually it becomes a habit. I've always been a moon-worshipper by nature and I look to her instinctively on nights when I feel happy and alive, to give thanks. I'm also guilty of screaming "THERE'S BLOOD ON THE MOON" at the slightest wisp of red.

I enjoy reading my horoscope, but not every witch does. I personally don't think you have to believe in astrology for it to bring you inspiration. A good astrologer speaks like a philosopher, and can trigger realisations without faith. For an in-depth monthly forecast, I go to Susan Miller, and for weekly poetic insight I check out Madame Clairvoyant. Refinery29 and Teen Vogue also do cool horoscopes.

I write down my dreams, and use them in my writing and in my art. During stressful periods of my life, I suffer with sleep paralysis, which causes intense lucid dreams and hallucinations. I try to view them as a creative gift, rather than a curse, and just a part of my own personal magic. I draw, write down, or even come up with a photograph to record what I saw in my dreams.

I chat to other witches. If you don't know any who live near you, why not set up a WhatsApp group or online Coven? Having that support and understanding is invaluable and can help you learn so much, just by asking questions and sharing your experiences with other witchy people. Try filling your Twitter feed with magic too; I recommend Audrey Kitching, Anastasjia Louise, and The Hoodwitch for starters.

Dancing, lastly, is one of the most vital ways I stay in touch with my power and with myself as a woman. Whether I'm doing it on stage, in private, at home, on a dance-floor or in a field, through dancing I can work myself into a trance-like state where I feel most free and uninhibited. That's where the magic happens. 

Why We Should All Be Using More Lube

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There are loads of shitty ideas out there about how sex (and vaginas, especially) ought to be, and frankly I'm sick of it. In my honest opinion, everybody should be using lube as a sex enhancement simply because it makes sex feel better for everyone, as well as helping minimize any chances of injury. You're not broken if you need lube. Whether you own a foreskin or a vagina, make "the wetter the better" your personal sex mantra. Forget whatever you may have heard from magazines or clueless partners about how your sex organs are supposed to work, and start doing what feels good. Lube can make it easier to get aroused, to stay aroused, and even to orgasm. Read on if you want to get the most out of your lubricant.

Lube Is Not A Shortcut: Lube isn't designed as a replacement for being properly turned-on. This misconception convinces some people that it is fine to rush ahead with sex as long as everything is wet, or makes them think that if they get wet on their own they have no need for it, neither of which is true. The reason we need lubricant is because our bodies can only produce so much even if we are completely gagging for it; foreplay is still required so that vaginal/anal muscles are relaxed. If you're finding sex is painful even if you're slathering on lots of lube, it might just be because you're skipping all the completely essential preparation. If you want to have prolonged, strenuous, rough or adventurous sex then you absolutely should be using a lubricant and enjoying lots of foreplay to make it as pleasurable as it can be for all parties. And just so we're all clear, SPIT IS NOT LUBE. Spit is fun, safe and fine to use during sex, but it is not lubricant. It is not the same consistency as natural moisture, and will only get you so far. If you spit all over a vagina it is only going to wash away and water-down any juices that are being produced. Enough already.

You Can Find A Lube For Every Occasion: The more tailored to you it is, the better sex will feel. Having the right thing to hand makes all the difference. For example, if you enjoy rough sex, anal, or want to play with large toys, then a thick lube like Generous Gel is what you're after. If you like a realistic feel that you'll hardly know is there, go for Stay Silky Serum. For a super thin, spit-like texture you would get from oral, try Little Light Liquid. All Smile Makers lubes are vegan-friendly, as well as body-safe, water-based, and condom-compatible. They only contain a handful of ingredients (the fewer the better) and come in dressing-table worthy, minimalist, and sensual packaging. No garish fonts or gaudy colours here. This range is all unscented and unflavoured, but I can definitely see an opportunity for Smile Makers to add a couple of subtly-garnished products to their offerings. I could totally imagine sweet and understated tastes like rose, vanilla, candy floss, or green apple working really well with their brand. The thing I like most about them is that they never feel sticky, like other lubricants can, and are pretty much undetectable once applied. They have never irritated my skin or stained my sheets, either. For all these reasons, they are my go-to no matter what kind of sex is on the cards. If you give them a go, send me a tweet or let me know in the comments, and if you just want to chat about lube I'm totally here for that too.